You know, years ago, I bet nobody had to send out "save the date" cards, but that's what today's bride has to do. People's lives are so much busier and getting busier every day, that if you want to get on someone's social calendar, you better get on their radar early. And it's not even about being greedy - trying to make sure everyone shows up so you get more gifts. It's about giving people time to plan for it because if they don't get to go, their feelings will be hurt and also relatives who hope to see them won't be upset. It's so hard for today's families to get together. I really wish life wasn't like that.
So, we hope to get these cards out soon - and with an additional reason. Since it's a theme wedding, we want people to have 2 Halloween seasons to find a costume. The other challenge is collecting physical addresses. Bruce probably has several email addresses for some of his guests, but no home address for snail mail. I think that's another interesting change in today's society.
Bruce said we should just email a PDF "save the date" to everyone, but I said no. Firstly, I don't have emails for some of my parents' friends. Secondly, Mom and etiquette states that certain things must be more personal and snail mailed (and I agree). Thirdly, some people like the memento - a paper invitation is a keepsake. Lastly, stuff in cyberspace lives on and on. The last thing we want is the PDF being forwarded by email to people who aren't invited - or worse, posted on someone's MySpace page. I'm pretty sure my Mom didn't have to worry about that when she planned her wedding.
Today's bride also has to make a wedding webpage so that you can easily share information and pictures with your guests. So, we've begun to build our sitelet which will have costume retailers, hotel information, directions to Dante's, etc.
I can't even imagine planning a high-dollar wedding. We are going "no-frills" for our wedding, and there's still so much to do.
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